Ambuli updates

The below on Facebook,

Repenting on the past mistakes,lets you remorse
Make things around you even worse
Learn from it and move obverse
For you can’t correct it with a reverse

Past few days i wondered as whether i have done a shabby job of parenting,i have grown a very weak and timid,sensitive,still dependent on amma kid.She loves home so much,for that she doesn’t cry in school but feels very unpleasant in school,not interacting much seeks approval for each item from her staff,she doesn’t even strikes back or informs her teacher if any kid strikes her(as told by her class teacher).She doesn’t talk to others much,but still she has made few friends.Upon leaving time she tells her route bus no and requests to be left there.

A big time observer who drifts into her own world most of the time.While am explaining the very interesting story of  ‘When earth lost its shape’, she glances through the car window and asks me why one tree is not straight and why the branches are bent ?a line was stolen from this tree alone ? On Ammamma telling very interesting stories about kitta,she wonders if he will come to our house or will respond if he call him.

Very imagining child who struggles to fit in a classroom environment,and clearly shows no interest in writing alphabets umpteen  times,instead shows big time interest in singing rhymes and colouring.

It’s dreadful for me to think i have grown a misfit in this society.

I don’t have answers at this moment,but i would want to let go by the flow.

I still remember my early school days,not LKG but UKG,i did not make big friends whole my life,let alone childhood.But i was definitely not weak like her.I don’t know  appa’s history though, for now i would go by the flow,few days had been really traumatic thinking to repair the damage already done,but no more thinking about it.


All of a sudden one evening before supper she declares ‘ You are not like my friends appa”.

Puzzled we ask why do you say that ? She replies ” My friends appa are all wearing glasses and looks stylish”.

So shocked, i could not understand from where she learnt all these.

Am not sure what made her believe so and to make such a statement,but am feeling good that am not the one who drops/picks her up from school.

LKG admission.Not a very challenging stuff as it is in India today, still i was a bit worried.

Personally i would want her to go to Montessori or any other non conventional educational system only.Given the limited option,this school seems to be promising,many of colleagues kids are into that school and they promise the very personal care teacher offers and the Olympiads they organise to replace threatening written tests.So i wish this school would e non threatening for her to learn and grow with.

And coming to the interview stuff,she had fever when we went to school,she felt sleepy and started her afternoon nap while waiting for interview,and i enjoyed the warli art on the sides of their staircase..By the time they called her she was half asleep,we went in with her for interview and was asked to leave.But madam did not answer anything to their queries,they i went up to her and asked her to answer,she did not answer until the staff member uttered the magical word,guess what ‘Chocolate’,after hearing that she opened her mouth voluntarily to say ‘My name is ……’ ,answer for the question which they have asking for the past 10 mins.

One who knows from egg to Butterfly cycle,refused to answer what it is when showed a butterfly,it takes a chocolate to bring out the answer.They gave coloring page to assess fine motor skill,definitely i would have loved to have something else instead of that.Well,it could be a general choice.And that’s it we are over,few general questions to assess language skills and few pictures for cognitive assessment and a coloring stuff for fine motor skills,she scored 45/55.And we paid the said amount,khalas. Admission saga is over.

And am deeply concerned about this one behavior of her observing others than to mind one’s own business(literally ‘parakku paarthal’),this deviates her attention and lacks completion in her own task,and in between everything she drifts into her own world,i must do something about it,but not sure what should be done.

Kid S is in our home playing,ambuli tells S,’hey don’t go if your mom comes and calls you,we have to play’.

On new year eve,Kid S has come home with pretty dress and tells me ‘Aunty,dress ambuli also like me new and pretty dress,only then it will be suitable for us to dance,pls go change’.

I was munching on something and i did not want to share it with her,and she asks “periyavaala irundhundu kozhandhel.kku share panna maatengaraye’. (being an adult,why aren’t you sharing with small kids ?)

The husband  tells her.”See,how baby S,D and A are going to school without fuss”,you should also go to school like that,and in a jiffy she replies ‘Avaala madhiri ellam naan school.kku poga maatten’.(I will not go to school like them).

There is a noise in kitchen and i yelp,she comes immediately and tells me “Unakku enna adi pattu irukkunnu pakkaradhukku odi vandhen’.

By mistake husand drops something and she asks “Enna appa odaichuttaya(have you broken that) ?”,the husband sighs,as how much of amma she is reflecting.

Just to prepare for interview i asked her.”What is your father’s name?” she replies with ‘Appa’,”What is your mother’s name?” she replies with ‘Amma’.Technically she is right.

Was planning to do a post and this popular blogger posted the same thing.What did i read in 2011,nothing great or inspiring,most are light reads and time pass few chetan bhagat’s,sujatha’s and 2 mills and boon(oh,don’t give that look,got it from her school’s jumble sale).Only one interesting read is ‘ The lost world'(Sequel of Jurassic park),it did introduced a love of paleontology.

I must say am more into reading/following kids literature/publications.We read so much this year, two trips to india means i lunge books as much as i can.The only negative thing about this place is, it lacks library,absolutely not one,after long time search i did managed to find only one in the kingdom,which is closed most of the time due to local kids causing trouble and they don’t lend.But the library was quiet state of art with a glass roof reading room and a wide range of books,i so wanted to take away most Enid Blyton’s work lying(dusting) there for myself.So the result is,i literally has to buy each and every book,but as the husband asks, how much can i pile here,tomorrow if we decide to come back for good,what will i do? still i buy at least most preferred books,typically i order the whole set in my mind,review and rework based on budget.move some into wish list and currently my wish list in flipkart contains 50+items and the one in my mind has at least 20+. I hope and wish that her school(big school coming in April) library is equipped and they lend to us.

This year we had a blast in reading,she is old enough to understand many things and here is what we read,

1. We all went on a safari (Tops  her list of fav reads)

2. My granny went to the market (Tops  her list of fav reads)

3.Penguins can’t fly

4.Krishna lifts Govardhana

5.Flotsam ( I must we are blown away by that book,quiet above her age group but still i explained to her,yes a complete book,No wonder it is a caldecott medal winner)

6.No more Monsters for me

7.Dinosaur time

8.A research guide to dinosaur by Magic tree house publishing

9.Monkey puzzle

10.The smartest giant in town

11.Room on the broom

12.Mama do you love me

13.Babies on the go

14.Green eggs and Hams

15.One fish,two fish

16.Marvin.k.mooney, will you please go now?

17.Katie and the Monalisa (very very lovely book)

18.Looking closely in the rainforest (we both loved this book and she  found 4 items correctly,she was close to most,worth the money spent)

19.The mixed up chameleon (A lovely introduction of animals to kids)

20.The cat in the hat. (Funny phrases and hilarious,a Seuss style)

21.Hidden hippo (This book was fun for our hippo fan)

22.Lai-lai the baby elephant (Wonderful book with wonderful photos,classic book @ affordable price,needless to say she loved it)

23.I am aan (Very informative book on elephants)

24.The veena player ( I found no.17 and this had the base in common)

25.The lizard’s tail.

26.No david.

27.Sleepy dog.

28.Mickey mouse adventures.

29. Free mountain

30.Over in the jungle ( Fab book,especially illustrations)

31.Eyes on the peacock’s tail.

32.Little teddy cannot sleep alone

33.Whats your name

34.A chair for my mother (Some touchy book in the recent past)

35.I had trouble in getting to Sollasollew

And the list continues,am stopping here not to bore further.We did read few tamil titles from Tulika and Karadi tales,she loved ‘Brahmavin pattampuchi’ the most.I have some interesting titles to open and read including kangaroos have joeys,almost gone,barefoot hussain,Harold and the purple crayon.The reason still i have unopened books are we read and read and read over the same thing,we both(DD n me) would have read no.1 and 2 almost 50 times each.She is on no.32 right now and DD is reading to her daily for lunch the same book.

Do share what you read this year and what you aim to read in coming year.Happy reading to all out there in coming 2012.

When most kids of her age and more than her age are glued and dancing for this popular ‘Why this kolaveri’?,She is least interested in Kolaveri and is more than fond of this song and sings complete song.Actually Ammamma is someone who used to sing this one for her bed time daily and i started singing this for her.One day DD searched for this song in YouTube and we found this song was from Movie Meera,released in year 1947.

But i must say this is such a sweet and melodious song for bedtime.

One more favorite which she loves to watch is this.


What could be her first stage performance after all,am not going to dig deeper into it as DD already have sulked so much for his mistake,did i tell he is the culprit ?

Two weeks back,we had Ambuli’s school christmas celebration in British club.DD even got the passes for it.Post Bali and Singapore trip,a very hectic one at that,we all had a sickness spell and recovered only 10 days post arrival in bahrain and obviously she did not go to school.So i was under an impression that she is not participating in anything(as she has not attended school almost for a month),but i felt we must show her all those.

As norm in this house hold,we(read it as them,dad and daughter) went late to the party(in spite me waking up early and finishing everything on time) when the older kids from Prep class started dancing(Ambuli is in nursery).It was pretty lovely to see kids dancing without a cry or fuss.I did felt for ambuli having missed the fun,but she did enjoyed watching akkas and annas dancing.Myself and ambuli went rested a while he was away for a coffee break,the class teacher came straight to me and asked ‘why are late today,i have informed your husband that she is in a russian folk dance and wanted you to come early?”. It was very missing feel,i must tell you.

When i informed him,he was sure that he was not informed and we hd petty arguments as he started sulking too much, definitely  a long time to go and she still very young to get pretty many chances,though i felt a lump in my throat,for not having seen my daughter dancing a russian folk dance.

Only silver lining in amidst all these was,we won a raffle sold,second time in my life to win something in raffles or draws.

And on other note she has started talking so much and has become extremely sensitive,am in a state of confusion to handle her especially in my miffed state.One angry word and she tells you almost in a broken state and pleading voice “Amma enna thitidha amma”(pls don’t scold me amma),that leaves me in a quagmire.

We also had a birthday celebration in school,with a cake and goody bag for kids.We walked into the classroom together,a best friend of her came running but she clambered on me and refused to civil with any of her classmates and made a pool of tears when i left.What could be wrong,almost a year now and still she is not settled,every morning she tells me ‘Amma school poga vendam, nee office pogave koodathu’ (I don’t want to go to school and you should not go to office).lets read some books and play together amma.Am very confused and not sure how will i handle this.

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